fellowship to assist Christian men in
addressing critical issues of life,
marriage, and family
iron sharpens iron, so one man
Saturday, between 30 to 50 men gather
around a roundtable at Christ Memorial
Church in Poulsbo, Washington, to
address issues confronting Christian
men. Other Roundtable fellowships have
been started in Port Orchard and East
Bremerton (Sylvan Way Baptist); Yuma,
Arizona (approximately 30-50 men meet
each Saturday morning there); Idaho,
following are format and suggestions
for starting a Roundtable Fellowship
like the one at CMC.
(1 ˝ hours)
scripture and questions, like
‘What does this say to us as men
today?’ The Holy Spirit
will lead the discussion in some
facing men who have come to the
The facilitator needs to be a leader
and have a compassion for other men.
The facilitator will select a man at
the meeting to open in prayer.
(We like to stand for the opening and
closing prayers at CMC.)
advance of the meeting, the
facilitator will contact someone to
bring the jump-start scripture and
question(s) for the next meeting.
A reminder call is necessary the day
before the meeting. This first
contact is often done after the close
of the previous meeting. The
facilitator does not ask for any
specific topic or scripture – the
individual being asked brings what he
senses the Holy Spirit leading him to.
The facilitator is not aware of the
scripture until the man shares it in
the opening prayer, the facilitator
will call for the jump-start scripture
and question. The men like to
bring the jump-start scriptures.
This gives all a chance to start the
meeting and raise the challenge
question that is meant to engage the
men in open discussion considering,
“ How does this apply to us
approximately the halfway point, the
facilitator asks for issues of the
heart to be brought up that
individuals may have come with that
need to be addressed. There are always
issues. Men are asked to pray for
those with needs – immediately.
the meeting winds down, any loose ends
are addressed by the facilitator. Then
he will call for a man to close the
meeting in prayer.
the facilitator will begin the meeting
with a scripture, aimed to prompt men
to share. When this format is used, we
usually simply proceed around the
table to anyone who has a need or an
issue. By beginning the meeting like
this helps ensure that all men have
had a chance to share and be prayed
The facilitator should select a core
group of men to gather around him to
share in this ministry. This
group could be from three to six men.
They can assist in duties such as:
Opening the church, starting coffee,
setting up tables and chairs, the
up of men to bring donuts or fruit and
making a reminder call the day before
meeting, picking up the offering
basket and dispersing it, meeting with
facilitator 20 minutes before the
meeting to pray for the meeting and
guidance of the Holy Spirit.
on time, and end the meeting on time—so
those that need to can leave.
Then be sure to stick around to hear
and minister to those who still need
to talk and share. (We found
Saturday 7:30 to 9:00 A.M. to be our
best time at CMC)
and donuts aren’t essential, but
they are nice,
along with some fresh fruit.
Have guys sign up and spread out the
responsibility. An offering
basket is set out with the food to
offset the expenses – those that
brought donuts or fruit can reimburse
the configuration of the tables round.
The shape of the overall seating
arrangement is important.
The arrangement tells men that we are
all peers – there is not a leader,
there is no front or back. There
is one body; all are important
members; no one is more important than
another. The facilitator’s job
is not to lead, per se, nor to
dominate, just to give some gentle
direction to keep the men engaged.
Jesus is the Head of the table.
The Spirit is free to touch any man
and move him to share or respond.
Ministry from the table members can
come from anyone.
in the room is very important.
Whatever is shared at the table stays
within the room, unless a man says
that it can be taken and shared
outside to others. This is
critical for building trust and
relationship among the men. (To
our knowledge, this has never been
violated since the beginning of the
Roundtable at CMC.) The men are
free to share outside the
Roundtable the subjects that were
discussed; loving our wives,
pornography, anger, forgiveness, our
authority in the home, child
discipline, etc.----but no details,
no names, not who was prayed
with and never what someone said.
jump-start scripture should be brief,
generally under six verses, and often
only one. Some guys like to turn
it into a devotion or mini-sermon, but
this does not work nearly so well.
The facilitator shouldn’t
necessarily try to stop it, but tell
the guys who are going to share,
“This is not a sermon, not a
devotion, but a scripture that can
challenge and stir the hearts of
men.” The one bringing the
scripture should add a few comments,
then raise the challenge or the
question. If the one with the
scripture does not raise a challenge
question, the facilitator must trust
the Lord to give him that challenge
for the group.
facilitator always needs to try to involve
more men than just those who like to
talk and every group has some of
those. This can be frustrating
for the facilitator. He must be
sensitive, not domineering, make some
mistakes, but grow by them. Let
the table know we are all in this
together for the purpose of maturing
in the Lord.
open to hurting men and ready to pray
The meeting is not a prayer meeting
per se –but prayer better be
happening a lot. It is very
important that the meeting never get
turned into a social gathering, a time
to review current events, or even a
Bible study. Men come for all
kinds of reasons, but some come
because they are hurting—big time!
(We have seen this over and over again
at CMC). Men need a place to
share their concerns and fears, even
confess their sins. The
facilitator may see that one of the
quiet guys seems to want to say
something. He’ll ask him how
it is going and if he has anything to
share. An avalanche of need and
some beautiful ministry often follows.
Prayer is the key. Believe God
for miracles, healings, deliverance
the Roundtable to other men in the
community and their pastors.
pastors come, don’t work them!
Let them be spectators, at least at
the first. Some pastors don’t
want to come until the men have
developed a trustful relationship with
a need surfaces and the men begin to
pray for someone, the facilitator
should try to stimulate “popcorn”
prayers, rather than have one or two
prayer warriors give ten minute
“Popcorn” prayers are one sentence
(or very short) prayers from different
men. It’s amazing how the Holy
Spirit will work through twelve men to
cover all that the prayer warriors
would have covered. It may take
a little more time, but the results
are terrific. Men begin to think
they also can become a prayer warrior.
a breakfast approximately quarterly or
and invite a pastor from another
church to speak. Ask him to share on
the topic "What is God saying to
men in this hour?" (not that God
changes His message, but what are
vital issues confronting men today and
how does God want us to respond) Bless
the pastor with a monetary gift.
your seat belt and get ready for the
Lord to use this ministry in the lives